Awareness

owl cardAs I dive deeper into my own blind spots, as Owl wisdom counsels, I better understand my own parenting compulsions—all the inner rules I have in my head about what my children need each day (vegetables, bookreading, time outside, etc.). I realize I have this incredible urgency to parent attentively because I myself didn’t feel attended to as a child.

A few weeks ago I had my glorious bookstore experience (meaning time to actually browse as there were no kids in the picture) I happened upon a book by Roger Housden “Ten Poems to Say Goodbye.” I trust his taste in poetry, and thought I might find some inspirational nuggets to chew on: the kind of words so true they pierce your heart. He didn’t disappoint. He included Jane Hirshfield’s poem, “When your life looks back.”

“When your life looks back— as it will, at itself, at you—what will it say?”

stupaThese are the kinds of question Awareness asks of us. To hold something bigger than the daily struggles, but to ask ourselves continually how do we live a life worth living.

In terms of mothering, everything gets turned on its heel for me when I ask myself the question: “Would I like to be a child of a mother like me?” On a good day, I can say, with a grateful heart, yes…but on other days the answer is more ambiguous.

That’s why these lines from Owl are so spot-on:
Owl, with her acute night vision and keen hearing, teaches us telepathy, awareness, and wisdom. But her perceptiveness goes beyond things of a sensory nature: owls are experts at tapping into what’s brewing beneath the surface. This skill is a mother’s secret pride—our ability to read into our children’s souls. When Owl calls to us, we need to sharpen our powers of observation, starting with our own true nature.

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I don’t want to worry about my kids all the time, or believe they need constant fixing and adjustments. I worry about my son the most right now, as he will start kindergarten in August, and he will be one of the youngest in his class. When I pull Owl it’s a reminder to tap into his soul, his unique spirit, and stop comparing him with all his friends and peers.

When my life looks back at me, I want it to say I held my kids, in exactly the way they needed, that I loved them beyond any measure, and that I delighted in their spirit.

oriah in the ruins

What do you want your life, looking back on your mothering, to say?

Mothering Muse ~ Intuition

We believe a calling like mothering, which haphazardly blends the transcendent with the tedious, warrants a little extra oracular guidance (see The Deck) and a deep well of inspiration. On Friday, we invoke the muse of motherhood be she poet, artist, dancer, musician, thinker, or dreamer. Wishing you all an inspired weekend!

It is never too early (or too late) to cultivate intuition. So, if we are inspired to nurture the mother’s intuition in ourselves, why not also foster intuition as our children’s birthright. Below you’ll find a good read about doing just that:

Sonia Choquette, The Wise Child: A Spiritual Guide to Nurturing your Child’s Intuition (Three Rivers 1999).

The Wise Child“Connecting to our intuition unites us with both our soul and the soul of the Universe, Divine Spirit. It takes away our fearful sense of isolation and inadequacy. It replaces fear with a sense of spiritual direction and safety. The world become friendly, nonadversarial, and welcoming. Life becomes joyful, amusing, generous, and abundant. This is the divine plan. The intuitive life is one of confidence, inner peace, and creative expression. What better gift to ourselves and our children?

 

Wild Card Wednesdays ~ Intuition

Fanning the fire midweek, we are tossing you a spontaneous quote, question, or conundrum related to Monday’s post. We invite you to riff on this prompt. Or, take a walk on the wild side, and share a story of wisdom, hilarity, or heartbreak to spark further conversation about the path of motherhood. This is a space to talk amongst ourselves—so gather round the hearth, warm your hands, and bare your soul.

We all know a mother’s intuition is a force to be reckoned with, but how can we put it to work for us day-to-day? Here’s a snippet from The Mother’s Wisdom Deck that may rally your inner knowing:

When you are struggling with a question or a choice, seek insight through stillness. Articulate what you are hoping to clarify, and wait for a response. The answer may come in many forms—a chance encounter, a premonition, a sudden momentum toward or away from the matter at hand. As a complement to stillness, look to spontaneity. Step outside your routine, take a new path through the woods, observe your surroundings as if you were seeing them for the first time. Then, using the principle of synchronicity, allow your intuitive self to interpret the signs.

Try this out or experiment on your own, and then share your story of how intuition has helped you navigate the unknown.

Flower on the pathphoto compliments of Erin Witbeck

Intuition

Quieting my mind for half-a-second and hoping to choose a card that could lend clarity to my otherwise muddled state, my hand hovered above the deck and then landed decisively on a card that made my fingers tingle. I turned over the card to find The Pythia, a priestess of Intuition, beckoning me to trust my own inner knowing.

PythiaFor the past few month’s I have been facilitating a women’s group dubbed the Sacred Sisterhood. We are all mamas raising our children together. When our bellies are full and round, we hold Blessingway ceremonies for each other. When motherhood knocks us around, we call upon each other for wise counsel. Yet, day-to-day, we may only pause briefly for hugs enroute to soccer practices and play dates.

In order to keep my third eye open, I require deep dives into my circle of women. And so, I have carved out a little space for us to come together and summon intuition, that voice of divinity that resides within. Sometimes we weave our stories together in council, passing around a talking piece like a shuttle moving through a loom. As we speak and listen to one another using the sixth sense, the wisdom emerging from each woman and the collective is inspiring beyond words.

Women's Council

On Easter, we expanded our circle into the natural world, stepping across a threshold into ceremonial solo time out among the hills where quiet and stillness open doorways to synchronicity. As I sat alone under a heavenly pine tree, I worried that everyone else was wishing they were back home with their families. Was I crazy to drag all of these busy mamas out into the hinterlands that are my personal place of worship? Would they all mutiny or step on rattlesnakes or worse?  Wrestling my monkey mind, I discovered a momentary truce within an intuitive sensing that everything was exactly as it should be.

Solo WalkWhen the brief solo time ended and we came back together, the women emanated rapture and awe. Then the stories began to erupt. A rare and sacred white deer had woven among the group as we were scattered across the land. Everyone’s experience and interpretation of the visitation was unique, but as one common thread the deer affirmed that we are always in conversation with the natural wisdom that lives deep within and all around; it is only a matter of tuning in.

Journaling

Drumming

 

Mothering Muse ~ Intention

We believe a calling like mothering, which haphazardly blends the transcendent with the tedious, warrants a little extra oracular guidance (see The Deck) and a deep well of inspiration. On Friday, we invoke the muse of motherhood be she poet, artist, dancer, musician, thinker, or dreamer. Wishing you all an inspired weekend!

What has surprised me about the toddler years are the constant conversations and motion. Often I feel like my brain is too full to make a decision about something two weeks away. I wonder how I’ll reach that place if I don’t have the attention to consciously visualize it. So, today I am giving thanks for the treasured, quiet spaces that do surface, often unexpected and unplanned. It is in these moments, when I can feel and hear my own heart beating, that I often set (and reflect on) intentions. In the days ahead, see if you can find a moment of tranquility to reconnect with what you intend for yourself and your children.