On Friday, we invoke the muse of motherhood to shine her light of inspiration upon us.
I treasure this book and highly recommend it: HOW TO TRAIN A WILD ELEPHANT & OTHER ADVENTURES IN MINDFULNESS: Simple Daily Mindfulness Practices for Living Life More Fully & Joyfully, by Jan Chozen Bays, MD. Sometimes I catch myself saying “no” for a mess of reasons: for protection, laziness, fear, to defend my own opinions or agendas. I laugh at myself as I type this list and reflect on how the majority of these times, saying “no” is insignificant and doesn’t serve my family or me or my mothering. I love how this simple practice of saying “yes” in Jan Chozen Bays’ book turns life upside down (in a healthy way) for a new perspective.
The Exercise: In this practice, we say yes to everyone and everything that happens. When you notice the impulse to disagree, consider whether it is really necessary. Could you just nod or even be silent but pleasant? Whenever it is not dangerous to you or others, agree with others and what is happening in your life.
…Saying “yes” (or not saying “no” or being contrary) is energizing, for everyone…and positive and loving.